Learn about some important things you need to know about having a perfect life, as well as the major challenges people face right now when it comes to having a good life in today’s guide. An audio version is available here.
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The perfect life myth
There’s no such thing as a perfect life.
One of the biggest problems these days is stress caused by mass media, mainly social media. People see the Kardashians on TV and other celebs and influencers on social media platforms like Instagram with their lavish lifestyle and beautiful houses and decadent food and so on, and get stressed about not living a life like that.
But here’s the thing that no one sees: the reality. Most of those Instagram photos are highly curated, and can even take hours to take! I saw a documentary once about a day in the life of a social media influencer. This girl had millions of followers and she literally spent half the day to prepare for taking just one photo to post on Instagram!
Just one photograph took nearly half the day…
By the way, if it sounds like I am negatively judging her, I am not. If anything, I am fascinated by how social media influencers like that make a living, there are lots of interesting people like that out there… So no, no judgements whatsoever, that’s her job after all – that’s how she makes her living. In that sense she’s very good at what she does so, good for her.
But it does highlight an important fact, the fact that for most of these influencers and celebrities you see with their posts about living the high life it is their job, their profession. They are doing what they are doing to create a buzz, and get more attention and followers. It’s work for them. It’s a lot like reality TV, just that you don’t get to see what happens behind the scenes.
The end result is the only thing you see.
The mass media mirage
What you see on mass media is a mirage, it’s mostly made up and never the whole story.
What is shown on these social media platforms is highly curated and as such far from the whole reality, so getting stressed about living a life like that is an exercise in futility.
You know how this works by the way. Think about your own social media posts: do you post only the best and most interesting and most noteworthy things, or do you post the negative and the bad and the ugly parts of your life?
We all have them, ups and downs are part of life after all.
But what we post on social media are nearly always only the ups. Rarely is there anything about the downs, and for good reason: we don’t like seeing or talking about the negative parts of our lives. So you know just how curated and selective a social media feed can be. Only the most noteworthy stuff are posted in public, and as such that’s not the whole story.
Comparison is a big problem
Getting disappointed over not having what others have is not a good way to live, and it most certainly does not help create a good life.
When you get yourself stressed over not having a life that other people have, you are deliberately practicing unhappiness, and that is just not good for you, as I’m sure you’ll agree.
Here’s the thing to understand: deciding what your life should be like based on what you see others doing, on what social media influencers post or what you see the celebrities do is not a recipe for a good life.
Not just that, it most certainly is not an effective recipe for a happy life.
There’s no such thing as a perfect life.
Bumps are just part of living.
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Life is like a roller coaster
Recently I heard a great analogy about life being like a roller coaster – there are ups and there are downs, and then there are periods when not much happens. The variety is what makes roller coasters interesting, and life works in the same way.
Now, whether you like roller coasters or not, you need to come to terms with the ups and downs of life. I wish a perfect life existed – that would be nice, to have no worries ever, to be happy all the time – but that’s just not the reality.
You can either dream about living in this make-believe la-la-land, or you can just accept life with all its downs and struggles and discontent. But when you do that and accept the reality, you’ll realise that all those struggles and challenges actually have a purpose, they were not in vain, because they make you a better and stronger person at the end of the day, and makes life more interesting.
Who you are today is a direct result of the struggles and challenges you went through in your life, and you are a better person as a result of them.
The life you have now is pretty good, and you are more blessed than you know you are. I did a whole talk about that not long ago, check that out if you haven’t already.
Here’s the bottomline – stop wishing for what people are posting on social media or what you see on mass media, because that’s less than half the story.
The reality isn’t always glamorous or rosy.
But that’s not a bad thing, because the ups and downs makes our lives meaningful and interesting.
They are a big part of our journey.
Don’t compare your life with that of others.
Enjoy the life you have.
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