Learn how to deal with your insecurities in today’s guide. Prefer audio? Listen to it here.
The insecurities we have are a major cause for our unhappiness – they are a big reason why a lot of people (too many) stay unhappy for most of their lives. In fact, often people go through their whole lives suffering because of their insecurities. And the unfortunate truth is, we all have them. Some know how to deal with them so that they don’t become nightmares, but most people suffer because of them, often to the point where their lives become a living hell!
Insecurities are a major blight of the mind, to say the least.
There’s no one universal Insecurity either – insecurities come in many shapes and forms, they are as unique and individual as we are. Even though there are common ones (like being overweight) different people usually will have different insecurities, which makes them all the more challenging to deal with.
The origin of insecurities
So where do our insecurities come from?
The seeds of our insecurities usually germinate during our formative years. Maybe someone said something or you saw or heard something that left a deep mark in your mind. The seeds are nearly always planted while we are growing up, at a young age and often without us noticing it, and they grow as we grow.
But we can also form insecurities later on in life, even as adults. Some of these Insecurities can grow so much that they become all-consuming, to the point where you can’t help but think about them all day long.
That’s not a good place to be in. That is not a good quality of life.
How to deal with your insecurities
Yes, insecurities are bad, but there is good news – your insecurities don’t have to be a bottomless pit of despair for you.
You do have options, ways you can deal with them, and maybe even get rid of them completely.
Here are three strategies to help you deal with your insecurities:
- Name them
- Expose them
- Get perspective
Let’s look at them in more details now.3 strategies for dealing with your insecurities #selfimage #selfworth #confidence Click To Tweet
Dealing with your insecurities starts by acknowledging them. At the end of the day, you can’t deal with a problem that you don’t even know about.
But how do you shed light on something that you might not even know about?
Asking yourself questions is a great way to find out what your insecurities are. Questions like this – what about your body would you wish to be different or want to change? Maybe it’s your weight, that’s an extremely common one. For you it might not be your weight, maybe it is something different.
Another question you can ask is if there’s anything about yourself that you feel sensitive or even ashamed about – basically ask questions to find out what causes you to feel bad about yourself. Whatever it is that makes you feel insecure, find out by asking yourself questions.
Name your Insecurities – that is crucial for dealing with them.
Once you’ve named it, often it’ll become obvious right away that the thing you feel insecure about is nothing for you to feel insecure about, which then takes its power away.
So figure out and acknowledge your insecurities.
Now, you might have insecurities that you already know about, and they are still there. In that case the first strategy might not help you deal with them, so what can you do? Well, that’s where the second and the third strategies can help.Why you need to name your insecurities #wellbeing #mentalhealth #personalgrowth Click To Tweet
Insecurities are a lot like roaches – they hide where you can’t see them, but in order to deal with them you have to shed light on them. Shedding light on your insecurities, and exposing them to others is one of the best ways to get over them.
The more they are exposed, the more they are out in the open for others to see, the easier it will be to get over them. It’ll be easier to get over them because over time it’ll become normal to live with the thing.
I had a friend who used to be really insecure about her ears, and would always hide them using her hair – even though there was actually nothing wrong with them, I suggested her to go a week without covering her ears and see what happened.
You know what happened?
No one thought she was hideous, which was her main worry, and she did not feel as terrible as she thought she would. The more she exposed her insecurity and talked with others about it, the more she realised that others really did not see it as a problem.
Giving yourself a little push out of your comfort zone to expose your insecurities can be a great way to nullify their hold on you.Why you need to expose your insecurities (and how to) #insecurities #selfhelp #selfcare Click To Tweet
Getting perspective is the third strategy for dealing with your insecurities, as it can give you factual information on just how unfounded your worries are, like how my friend found out that people really did not feel the same way she felt about her ears.
On that note exposing your insecurities is, in fact, a great way to get perspective.
Let’s demonstrate this using an example – say you might think you’re not beach-body ready and you’re insecure and worried that people will judge you if you go to the beach. But if you push yourself and go to the beach you can find out just how little your worries actually mattered.
Realising just how little people care can be a great way to see how just little your worries were warranted, not that you should rely on what others think. But most insecurities are based on what others might think so getting that perspective, that people don’t care half as much (if at all) about your insecurity can be just what you need to overcome your insecurity.This is how much people care about your insecurities #bodyimage #happiness #selfcare Click To Tweet
When you apply one or more of these strategies to your Insecurities, and do so consistently, you will start to get a handle on them.
But like anything in life, it usually won’t happen overnight.
You will have to keep at it.
You will have to keep applying these strategies to get back control of your life from the clutches of your insecurities.Can you get rid of your insecurities overnight? #insecurities #mentalhealth #selfcare Click To Tweet
The only time an insecurity needs work
Here’s one more thing you need to understand – the insecurities you have, more often than not, are completely unwarranted. In the majority of cases the issue in question is nothing more than your worries about what others might think, which is why the strategies I talked about earlier can work very well in helping you deal with your insecurities.
That said, if the issue is something that can negatively impact you, namely negatively affect your health, then do something about it.
Not because of what others will say but because of how it will help you and improve your quality of life if you do.
So if you’re a bit overweight, for example, lose the extra weight – not because it’s important in terms of what others think of you, but because being overweight is bad for your health and can cause lots of health issues and discomfort in the long term.
Looking after yourself is important, after all.
On that note, looking after yourself isn’t just about your physical health – it includes looking after your mental health too. Don’t let your insecurities get in the way of your happiness and your peace of mind. More often then not they are completely baseless worries, because others don’t care nearly as much as you think they do.
No one really cares, they don’t really have the time to, they’re probably battling their own insecurities!
But even if they did it doesn’t really matter what others think about the things you’re insecure about – what others think is their business, not yours.
Mind your own business, and take care of yourself.
Improving your mindset will help you with that.
If you want to learn more about improving your mindset, listening to these can help. I also have a book on the topic that can be useful – 7-Day Guide on How to Think Better.
The most important takeaway
As for your insecurities here’s the bottom line, here’s what I’d like you to take away from today’s guide if you take away just one thing: if the thing you are insecure about is a legitimate issue, do something about it like if the issue is about being overweight. So for dealing with the extra weight, for example, you can do things like start working out and cut down on junk food and so on.
The point is if the issue is something that can negatively impact your health, do something about it. If you can’t do anything about it, or if it is not a genuine issue to be concerned about, then stop wasting your time and energy on it, stop focusing on the issue and move on, because it is not worth losing your sleep over.
Whatever you do, do not let your insecurities rule your life. And now you have no excuse since you have learned three strategies that can help you get started with dealing with your insecurities.
Apply what you’ve learned today and get started with dealing with your insecurities. The sooner you start, the sooner you face them, the better.
Will it be easy?
It will not be easy at all, as often our Insecurities are deeply entrenched, but it absolutely can be done. I’ve done it, as have many others – you can do it too.
Your insecurities do not define who you are, you are far more than the sum of your insecurities. and you have it in you to deal with your insecurities and overcome them.
You CAN get rid of them from your life.
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