Everyone gets angry once in a while. Everyone feels and experiences this emotion.
And that’s ok – anger is a normal, natural emotion.
It only becomes an issue when the anger becomes too intense and difficult to control – then it can be a harmful, destructive emotion.
That’s why for some people anger management is essential: so that their anger does not end up causing harm to themselves or other people (especially people close to them).
Read on to learn more about ways people deal with anger, benefits of anger management, how to get started with managing anger (including tips and resources), and more.
Three ways people deal with anger
Different people deal with their anger in different ways.
Some people express or show their anger directly and aggressively. They may feel like lashing out verbally or physically.
Others turn their anger inwards and keep it all bottled up.
Then there are people who express their anger in passive-aggressive ways. They seem okay on the surface but hold on to their anger, rather than speaking up. When they do express their anger or frustration, they withhold information, rather than being upfront about what’s bugging them. This often leads to letting their friends down or making people wait for important details.
When people continue to be in a state of anger all the time and act out, it can (and does) have a multitude of negative impacts – they might lose important people around them, lose their job or even lose their sense of identity!
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The importance (and benefits) of anger management
It is important (if not essential) for us to work out our problems, and figure out why we become angry (i.e. figure out what our triggers are). Anger management helps with that.
Managing our anger also teaches us not to let our anger get the better of us.
It’s also good to remember that we shouldn’t be imprisoned by our anger, and learning anger management can help with that.
And don’t forget the health benefits – not processing anger can lead to a whole host of health issues, including high blood pressure, and chronic stress. So when you learn how to manage your anger in a healthy way, you also positively impact your health.
Knowing how to manage our anger has lots of benefits
Anger is a natural emotion
Before we move on to learning about anger management, let’s get clear on something – anger is a part of our lives, and not something to feel guilty or bad about. Everyone deals with it.
Anger is a very normal and natural emotion, and has its uses, but not when it takes over our lives.
That’s when it becomes a problem.
That’s when it becomes harmful (even destructive).
Not knowing how to manage our anger not only harms everybody and everything around us but also negatively impacts us too (usually more so).
That’s where anger management comes in – knowing how to manage and deal with our anger in a healthy way can enable us to deal with (and prevent) such problems, and help us live a healthy, happy life.
Let’s now look at how we can get started with managing our anger.
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How to stop anger from ruining your life
The first step in dealing with your anger is to be aware of it, and acknowledge when there is a problem.
And this starts by understanding how you manage and deal with your anger. The above points will help you with that.
Here are 2 questions to get you started on dealing with your anger:
- How do you deal with your anger (which of the 3 above types fits you)?
- How can you deal with it better?
These questions will get on the right path. But you will need to do more if you want to get a handle on this long term, and that’s where learning about anger management will come in.
Learning anger management
Learning anger management isn’t hard – there are lots of ways you can learn this skill.
The most common option is a course – so you can consider enrolling in a local anger management course. Educating people on how to handle their anger is at the core of anger management courses, so they can certainly be useful. There are lots of programs out there that can help you learn how to deal with your anger issues. There are programs for different age groups – for kids, teens, and adults. There are also programs that cater to couples and families. Anger management programs aim to help people learn and understand how they can work on their anger.
You can also go to a mental health professional – there are lots of methodologies that can help deal with anger. If you feel that you will benefit from a one-on-one approach, then this might be the option for you.
Enrolling in a course or going to a mental health professional are not the only ways to learn how to deal with your anger – you can also learn on your own. There are tons of great resources online. In fact, a quick google search can be enough to help you find information and material that will be useful for you.
To get you started here are three great anger management resources to check out:
- How to cope with anger – Extensive guide by MIND on coping and managing anger
- How to control your anger – A very useful and informative guide by the NHS
- Controlling anger before it controls you – Useful guide on dealing with anger by APA
Last but not least, start practicing mindfulness and meditation (if you don’t already). They are extremely effective at helping you manage your emotions and mental health, especially your anger.
Check out these articles to get started with that:
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Whichever method you choose, make sure that the material and methodology makes sense to you. Because at the end of the day it is important to use stuff that resonates with you – otherwise it won’t be very effective.
Knowing how to manage and deal with our anger is a valuable life skill.
It is important to know how to deal with our anger, especially how not to get angry often, or for long.
Anger management is not just useful, it is essential. It can (and will) have a big impact on the quality of your life.
So if you want to improve your life, and find it challenging to process and deal with your anger, learn how to manage it.
How about you – what works for you? Do you have any anger management tips to share?
Share your tips, ideas, and feedback in the comments.
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