Asking questions is not just a great way to get useful information from others, it is also a really valuable way to find insights about yourself. If you are interested in growing and improving yourself, you need to ask yourself questions. You need to challenge your perceptions and beliefs.
To get you started, below are eight self-improvement questions that you can ask yourself, to help you find useful insights about yourself.
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What do I really want?
Do you know what you really want in life? If you don’t know, don’t worry because you are not alone. It is far common than you realise, and here is an easy way to remedy that – take a moment and have a think about what you want in life. Think about where you want to be in five years.
Be a bit selfish and think about what YOU want.
If you are constantly sacrificing your life, time and dreams for other people, you won’t be able to figure out what you want (or need) in life. Put yourself first, especially when you are asking yourself this question. Otherwise, you won’t be able to answer it properly, or fully.
So think, what would you be doing right now if you weren’t tied down by family, job, friends, or something else?
Find something that you truly enjoy doing and keep doing it until you are at your peak. Be the you that you want to be.
Are there any areas of my life I need to change?
Are you the person you want to be? Are you proud of who you are? Will you be proud of the person you will be if you continue living your life the way you are living it now? If your answer to any of these questions is no, then it is a clear sign that some areas of your life need to be changed.
If you are not the person you want to be, if you are not enjoying your life, then it is extremely likely that you are not concentrating hard enough on an area of life that you need to develop and grow.
As Dolly Parton said, “If you don’t like the road you’re walking, start paving another one.” If you feel unsettled and unhappy with how your life is right now, then maybe it is time to change something.
What’s the good thing in all this?
Life can be overwhelming. There might be a lot of things happening in your life right now, so much that it might seem that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. That’s the thing though, life’s never meant to be easy – but that does not mean you should give up. Continue on, as there is always light at the end of the tunnel, and there is always good to be found even in challenging situations.
As the saying goes: “When it rains, look for rainbows. When it’s dark, look for stars.”
So whenever you are having a difficult time, ask yourself this question to help you get some valuable perspective. It can make a big difference…
Am I comfortable with what I’m doing?
It might be important to notice your level of comfort when you are doing something. Do you feel comfortable doing a specific task? If not, ask yourself why. Are you doing it out of free will or coercion? Maybe the assigned task is beyond your comfort zone? If it is, are you willing to take it on?
Growth happens out of your comfort zone, so feeling some discomfort isn’t necessarily bad. Like M Salek said: “Life never gets easier, you just get better.” Here’s the caveat to that though – do things that challenge you and will help you grow, but do not do things that make you unhappy and do not help you grow. The first leads to a stronger you, whereas the second is just a recipe for unhappiness. So choose wisely, think for yourself.
Am I looking after myself?
Helping others is very important – but so is looking after yourself. A lot of us put others needs over our own, so it is useful to check in with ourselves from time to time. So ask yourself, are you taking care of yourself? Are your needs and wants being taken care of?
Helping others and valuing their welfare is a great trait, even an essential one, but you must not forget yourself entirely. At the end of the day, you cannot be of any help to anyone if you are not healthy (both physically, and mentally). Self-care is important.
So if you are the type of person who has a tendency to prioritise everyone else’s needs over yours, make it a habit to ask yourself this question from time to time.
How much do I need?
Life isn’t about having a lot of things. Just having things does not make you happy. In fact, having too much often causes stress and unhappiness. So ask yourself this question from time to time, especially if you are planning on buying or getting stuff. How much do you actually need to live your life?
There is another reason why you should ask yourself this question from time to time: being smart with your finances is in fact one of the most effective ways to be happy in the long term, so think before you spend.
Am I happy where I am today?
Often people get bogged down by the feeling of unhappiness, and negative thoughts, without actually realising it. They slog on with their day and just carry on feeling bad (and down). So it is good to ask yourself this question, especially when you are not feeling 100%.
If your answer is yes, then well done, carry on!
If not, then figure out what can/will make you happy. The next question can help you with that.
What motivates me?
A key aspect of personal growth is doing things that drive you, things that you feel passionate and motivated about.
There are lots of things that motivate a person. You have to discover for yourself what you are passionate about, and what motivates you.
Love can be a motivation, so is fame, wealth, family, adventure, etc. What motivates you?
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To recap, here are the 8 self-improvement questions to ask yourself:
- What do I really want?
- Are there any areas of my life I need to change?
- What’s the good thing in all this?
- Am I comfortable with what I’m doing?
- Am I looking after myself?
- How much do I need?
- Am I happy where I am today?
- What motivates me?
Asking yourself questions like those listed above is one of the best ways to become more self-aware. It is also one of the most effective ways to deal with negative beliefs that might be holding you back. So make it a habit to ask yourself questions, especially questions that challenge you and make you think.
Which of these questions resonated with you the most? Do you have any suggestions for self-improvement questions that we can ask ourselves?
Share your thoughts, suggestions, and tips in the comments below.
By the way, if you are serious about self-improvement and would like to learn more, check out our introductory guide on the topic – this will be a great place for you to get started: What is Personal Development? – An Intro Guide to Personal Development (+ FAQs)
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