Self-esteem comes from having a healthy image of yourself, and self-love is a big part of that.
When you love yourself, you automatically have high regard for yourself. But unfortunately, our atmosphere can be hard-hitting – things aren’t always easy, and there are lots that can adversely impact our self-esteem. But this does not mean this is a lost cause – you can improve your self-esteem, no matter what happens, no matter how bad things get.
We will, in fact, discuss six such ways below, including the kind of people and situations that can potentially affect your self-esteem and how to boost your self-esteem.
1. Avoid negative competition
Ever heard of the “dog eat dog world”? That phrase is used to describe a situation of fierce competition in which people are willing to harm each other and do anything just to get ahead.
Sure, competition is present in any society. It can even be good. But if the competition is destructive or ruthless, done without self-restraint and ethics, etc. , then the competition is far from good, or useful.
Stepping on others to get ahead is never a good strategy, and is quite harmful to self-esteem.
So if you are faced with that sort of competition at work (or elsewhere), try to stay clear from those situations. Or better, make sure the competition is fair.
2. Avoid negative people
This one really is a no-brainer – as much as possible, keep away from people who make you feel bad.
Namely, stay away from people who are:
- exploders, and
- emotional vampires
People like that cause vicious cycles of negativity, and that only impacts your self-esteem negatively. They not only make you feel bad, but they also keep you stuck in a negative place.
Stay away from these type of people.
3. Learn how to deal with change
The only constant in life is change. Change is something you just can not avoid. This is not a bad thing though, as change can challenge our paradigms, and help us grow.
We can all learn something new with change. So start viewing it as a friend, not an enemy. Because only through embracing change will you grow.
4. Never let a painful past experience hold you back
Every now and then, we stumble, we do things we regret, we make mistakes…
Happens to everyone.
But you should never let your pain change into fear or recurring regrets. There are lessons to be learned from every failure and mistake.
Letting your past hold you back is never smart and does not help your self-esteem. What’s done is done.
Here’s the best way to deal with mistakes and setbacks – just pick yourself up, and get on with it. That makes you resilient, and strong, which boosts your self-esteem massively.
RELATED: Are You a Prisoner Of Your Past?
5. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude
The world may is not a bed of roses – things are not pleasant all the time, but that doesn’t mean we should wrap ourselves with all the negativities in this world. Because there are lots of good things – every moment you are breathing is something to be grateful for, as there are thousands who are not so fortunate!
We are surrounded by lots of good, with lots to be grateful for.
All it takes is just being mindful of them.
Practice being grateful – starting a daily gratitude journal helps.
6. Be mindful of your sense of identity
Your identity is solely yours, it is not shared with or dependent anyone, not even your loved ones.
So if your parents have set bad examples, for instance, that doesn’t mean that’s who you are.
You determine who you are – the sooner you realise that the sooner you can start working on being the type of person you want to be.
It’s a given that you can’t always avoid or change a situation, no matter how painful or negative it is – shit just happens sometimes. However, what you can do is work on yourself, be mindful of all the good things around you, and reduce the negativity around you (including avoiding certain people and situations).
Just put the above advice into action and you will see your self-esteem growing. Before long, you will be able to determine what’s good for your self-esteem and what is not, which will create a virtuous cycle.
Try out the tips above – consistency is key, and with practice, you will get better.
You can improve your self-esteem.
Here’s to a great you!
Your self-esteem, to a large degree, depends on your level of happiness. To help with that, check out our article on 15 ways to increase your happiness. On that note, if you want to create more long-lasting impact learn more about personal development – our beginner’s guide to personal development is a great place to start.
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